What Now?

Change can be exciting…if I’m calling the shots. Do you know what I mean? I don’t like people springing change on me. When someone sneaks up and changes what I’ve come to expect my flex gets stuck on ornery.

Take my skin care. Never mind, you don’t have to because Aveda decided that their sensitive skin line was no longer needed. Huh? Did they call me first? Or give me a 3 month warning so I could stock up? No. It took me years to discover this amazing line, which worked for me like a miracle. Now I shall spend the rest of my days wandering the earth flaking. Bitter? Perhaps a tad.

My favorite hometown fine candy store offered the biggest most wonderful dark chocolate non-perils in the world. Yes, world. Then one night, under the cover of a cloudy quarter-moon, they disappeared. Who moves chocolate like drugs to an undesignated site? Sad. Sick. Not even a trail of chocolate covered cherries were left behind. That’s cruel.

Warning! Never fall in love with a shade of lipstick because when word reaches headquarters that selection will be permanently removed. I’m just sayin’.

Paranoid? No. Not. Me. Not. Yet. Potentially I’m close.

Good thing I can count on Jesus……………the same…forever!

What change is hard for you?


  1. Marti on March 24, 2011 at 7:22 am

    The makeup changes, those are the hard ones. I don’t adjust colors by the season, I simply find one look that works and remain with it…until the cosmetic powers that be eliminate my favorites. UGH, drives me bonkers!!!!!

  2. Pinky on March 24, 2011 at 7:24 am

    “Who moves chocolate like drugs to an undesignated site..” This is hysterical and they should be arrested! :)

    I agree with you, it’s very difficult when others make changes for me, especially when I haven’t asked for it.

  3. Shelia on March 24, 2011 at 7:28 am

    L’Occitane Wild Cherry Tree perfume. I bought it last spring with birthday money. My littlest went with me to pick it out. I. LOVE. IT!!! I have had more compliments on this scent than anything I have ever worn. It is almost gone. And there is not a drop of this precious elixir to be found on the planet. L’Occitane no longer sells it. EBAY can offer me nothing. SO I am down to carefully evaluating each day of my life to see whether or not it merits a few drops of my all-too-quickly vanishing eau de joie. :(

    I feel your pain.

  4. Les on March 24, 2011 at 7:30 am

    Great blog

  5. Stacey on March 24, 2011 at 7:31 am

    Love this post Patsy! I H.A.T.E. it when a manufacturer changes something! And it ALWAYS happens to me. I find something I like, have searched for, and BAM! it’s gone. I just think of myself as well-refined in taste. :-)

    So glad Jesus doesn’t do that!!

  6. LB Scantlin on March 24, 2011 at 7:36 am

    So very true…like the lemon pies from Jack-in-the-Box (probably 30 years ago…and I still miss them), and most recently, my Viennese Chocolate Cafe instant coffee. So glad God is ALWAYS with me, and NEVER changing!!

  7. Joyce on March 24, 2011 at 7:59 am

    You are sooooo right!!! We found a restaurant about 40 miles away! We loved it. We went back a year later and it was an over grown lot! Makes you wonder. hmmmm. I love your new blog! Will be checking back! <3

  8. Janet Carroll on March 24, 2011 at 8:34 am

    I tell the guy who has been doing my hair for over a decade he must NEVER move! In fact, if something came up that meant I had the option of moving to another state, I may decline just so I could keep my “hair guy”…..how traumatic it would be if i had to change to someone else to cut and color my hair!

    • Linda Harris on March 24, 2011 at 10:02 am

      I agree totally on the hair! I have the same stylist for about 30 years. I lived through her 3 pregnancies and adjusted my schedule when she began working part time. I moved so now drive about 25 miles to see her. I have also followed her to 4 salons. I don’t know what I would do if she was no longer available to do my cut and color.

  9. Debbie on March 24, 2011 at 8:43 am

    Preach the truth, Sister! It is so true. In fact, not only do they stop making any shade of lipstick you come to love — they tease you by making a shade you like but only in another country! I should not have to go to Barcelona to buy Barcelona Red made by a company in Canada — where I live. How crazy is that. I digress, I realize. You opened up a wound I think.

    Change is hard. Look in my closet. Its what they call uniform dressing. For those of us with a touch of OCD its impossible. Oh, wait — with God all things are possible. Thanks for this wonderfully sweet post on a really important truth — change happens — it’s hard — but God is there!

    Bless you. You’re such an encouraging sweetheart! Debbie

  10. Claudette Wood on March 24, 2011 at 8:45 am

    L’oreal had the best mascara ever and then they stopped making it. I bought and threw away three different brands before I found something else I could tolerate. I don’t like those sorts of changes either.

  11. Sandra Heska King on March 24, 2011 at 8:58 am

    Technology changes! As soon as I get used to my new phone, the contract’s up and it’s time to choose a new one. And this morning, I updated Mozilla, and now my window tabs are in the wrong places.

    And daylight savings time. I like my sun in the morning, thank you very much.

    Oh, and changes of aging. Like finding my waistband rides above my waist and I can’t thread a needle any more.

  12. joy on March 24, 2011 at 9:12 am

    patsy, i am so glad to see you have a new blog. I love your writing. i was sad when the other blog ceased to exist. lol!

  13. Cheri on March 24, 2011 at 9:50 am

    The school district I have taught in for 29 years is restructuring. Closing a beloved century old school, moving kids to the remaining 3 schools, 27 out of the 60 teachers received lay off notices….. A lot of change for our small community.

  14. Missy on March 24, 2011 at 9:55 am

    Thank you for being real. You don’t know how much your honesty encourages me. I’ve been rubbing against some leagalism lately and it feels like sandpaper and then I will read something you write and I’m like, “thank you God” for real people with real problems and I thank God for laughter. I’m learning it’s the tool he put in my life to keep me from going crazy! Keep doing what you are doing, thank you for your ministry.

  15. Lindsey on March 24, 2011 at 10:09 am

    I am feeling you about the chocolates, Patsy! My fav local soup and sandwich shop used to sale this homemade ooey-gooey cake called Death By Chocolate by the slice that was AMAZING! I crooned for it and then poof, one day I called to order a whole one for an event and Death By Chocolate was no more! It stung! It still stings!!!

  16. Lindsey Nobles on March 24, 2011 at 10:18 am

    I remember when I was little they discontinued my sister’s favorite kind of GrapeNuts cereal. My mom stocked up and we had like a 3-year supply in our pantry. It always struck me as peculiar.

  17. Beth Coulton on March 24, 2011 at 10:26 am

    Oy vey – kids going away to college! This has been a huge shift in the tectonic plates for me. That’s been a change I have not liked (maybe because it’s accompanied by paying out large sums of money). But I’m getting there.

    Sometimes just the change from Sunday to Monday can be rough- or sometimes Friday to Saturday. I’m an organized people person and at times the weekends can be a little too draggy for me and I need the structure of the workday.

    that is, until I realize how comfy my footie jammies are and how long I can stay in them.

  18. SusanEllingburg on March 24, 2011 at 10:34 am

    Jiffy Brownie Mix. Yes, I am perfectly capable of making brownies from scratch, but this little box cost about 50 cents and used to make a small pan just perfect for my little brother and me. We used to underbake them on purpose and call them “spoon brownies.” He’s having brownies with Jesus now, but I think of him every time I pass the Jiffy mix section of the grocery aisle.

  19. Bonnie C. on March 24, 2011 at 10:47 am

    Bras. If the girls ain’t perky mama ain’t perky. And we all know what happens when mama ain’t perky…I’m currently mourning the demise in production of my favorite bra. Think I’ll wallow in a vat of chocolate. Hopefully it will still available.

  20. Vicki Cooksey on March 24, 2011 at 10:50 am

    Losing my job at 60 and trying to compete in a young world.

  21. Belinda Snow on March 24, 2011 at 10:59 am

    Hardest change for me is living alone after being with my husband most of my life….
    Doing stuff myself like putting HEET in the gas tank….Or going to the bank myself
    to do whatever;… Eating out and sitting alone, .. Wondering whats next Lord !!!!!
    But change is hard especially when we have no say in the matter… Whether be a good lipstick or where we eat….!!!

  22. Julie on March 24, 2011 at 11:42 am

    Change? I have no problem dealing with change as long as everything stays the same. The seasons change. I can deal with that. ;-)

  23. SuzIe on March 24, 2011 at 12:52 pm

    Patsy let me know if you find something for sensitive skin that you fall in love with again! RIght now I am using Burt’s Bee’s <ilk and Honey Lotion and so far I am loving it….but sometimes my sensitive skin reacts out of no where and I have to change again! So I like to be prepared with something that someone else has tried and loved. Thanks for reminding us of the changes that we all endure.

  24. Patricia (Pollywog Creek) on March 24, 2011 at 3:27 pm

    Can’t think of a change that isn’t hard. Like that flavor of instant coffee International Foods used to make – coconut mocha. My all time favorite. So it was bad for my health. I didn’t care. I was devastated when they took it off the market. And that rich amber scented lotion that worked PERFECTLY with my body chemistry? Just like that – gone.

    My hubby just bought me a new REAL camera (can you believe it?!?!?) and as much as I expressed a desire to have it (shameful, I know), I’m afraid to use it.

    What’s with that? Change, actually. It doesn’t fit in my hand like the one I’ve used for years, and it means I need to move out of my comfortable zone and learn something new. In the natural, I choose the comfort that I know, but if I want to grow, I need to be willing to change.

    Love you BIGGIE bunches!

  25. Donna Norris on March 24, 2011 at 5:32 pm

    Change? What’s that? I’m a creature of habit, change is something I don’t do well!

  26. Paula on March 25, 2011 at 8:34 am

    I miss Pine Bros lozenges, honey flavor. Sigh.

    I am finding that having my kids grow up is a bit like having grown up myself (at least, as much as I have so far.) Anxious and happy for certain stages and wanting to get there too quickly but then looking back and remembering and wishing I hadn’t rushed through it so fast.

    I guess the change I am having the most trouble with is shifting my focus from caring for other people back to caring for me. Doesn’t feel right somehow. Like I’m selfish. But I haven’t care for me in a long time and I must admit the neglect is showing.

    Some change is good. I’m glad there aren’t any leg warmers in my dresser drawers.

  27. Kim on March 28, 2011 at 2:16 pm

    I am kind of experiencing basket upset in my life right now. I’ve discovered that my body aches in ways I didn’t even know existed. I’m not old, but I’m not young either and I’m realizing the changes life has to offer as far as appearances too. I’m also realizing that everyone is mortal, my family and the people that matter the most to me, and the fear of being alone scares me lately because I am not a parent and am not going to be one.

    On top of those changes, we are in the middle of trying to sell our house. The one we wanted was sold before ours, I was crushed. We have to sell ours to buy the one we want. We looked at 3 houses this past weekend, and wasn’t too crazy about any of them. So now we are looking for the house that feels like home in the event that ours does sell. However, looking at many different places I’ve become very thankful for what I do have. I see the blessing in what I was given, and am going to live life to the best of my abilities. So since I can’t move, I’m getting new furniture to make me feel like I’m in a new home.

    Sometimes change happens even though we don’t like it, and the change that I want doesn’t usually happen when I think it should… in my time frame. However, if I just get out of the way and let God make the changes in me that need to happen – the end result is much better than what I would have created. Excuse me as I move myself out of the way so God can change me for the better.

  28. Tricia on April 10, 2011 at 10:25 pm

    Change..hmm…have to think about that for a moment. Normally I dislike change, any kind of change…until this past week. We had been thinking about adopting a child and 3 weeks ago we met up with a birthmom. She chose us and we started the process. This past tuesday the baby was born and he is beautiful! I think this is a change I can definately get into. God willing we will be able to bring him into our home soon. Yes I think this may be the one time change is really good!

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