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A Plan For Holiday Sadness


Melancholy can descend upon us like heavy drapes from a theater,  which is why it’s good to have a plan for holiday sadness. The gala emphasis on family, while good, can also push our loss buttons causing our cheery feelings to be run off by “ghosts of Christmas past.” Those whom we love who are far away or have died, suddenly take the forefront of our minds, which can cast us back into the throes of grief. And while we never want to forget them we also cannot mentally and emotionally afford to allow those memories and feelings to disrupt our  interiors and dismantle our sanity. There are a number of things we can do to help ourselves through the holidays and below are a few things that have helped me.

Choose good thoughts. Place boundaries on your head verbiage. We can’t afford to indulge thoughts of “why me” or ‘if only. When you find your self bumping into “woe is me” sentiments you need to back up and take a fresh path of thoughts. Mental health is a business, our business, its not a game so we cant afford to play with our well being. Remember our will is stronger than our feelings. We can choice to make right choices even when we don’t feel like it. For instance; if I wake up and I don’t feel like getting out of bed I can command my muscles to move and they have to obey. That’s the way we are wired. God knew we would need a way out of our misery so he designed within us a sturdy will that grows stronger with use.

Choose movies and books that brighten your season. You may have to shop around to find some. Try asking friends for recommendations. Avoid movies that cast dark shadows on your soul. You know the ones that cause you to sit and sulk because they are either full of manipulative scenes that we are overcome by or that we have tender memories attached to that pierce us with pangs of what we don’t have.

Choose music and conversations that are cheery. My favorite new Christmas album this year is from my friends, Point of Grace (link: https://www.pointofgrace.net/store-3/sing-noel)

Choose to get plenty of rest. If you are an emotional absorber minimize your exposure to sad sacks and maximize your times around folks who love life and love you. When we stay so busy we exhaust our reserves, which is a temptation this festive time of the year, we set ourselves up for sadness.

Choose light meals, it will help with energy levels and mood  swings. Eat a handful of nuts before you enter a party in case the menu is filled with too many tempting delectables, that are sugar-laden and will effect our mood. Also drink a glass of water before dinner it will help us not feel so appetite driven. Decide before you order off a menu to make wise choices. Sugar and caffeine are proven to play havoc with our internal balance.

Choose to be more intentional on giving than receiving and be a grateful receiver.


Some of my favorite books & movies that bring cheer and hope during the holidays:


Anne of Green Gables


When Holidays Hurt


 

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6 Comments

  1. Sue on December 14, 2017 at 3:04 pm

    Thank You for sharing!- My Heart Hurts for my husband of 40 years- he lost both of his younger brothers one 2 days after Thanksgiving and one on Christmas morning-one 12 years ago the other 3 years ago- so the holidays are hard for him!- My daughter and her family- ( my 3 grandsons)- moved to Washington state- I am in CA- almost 3 years ago- I only have her and one son- I am so Blessed because they are so happy and my son and his family- 3 Grandchildren are here- but my heart hurts because we are not together- I get very sad- but I just don’t talk about it and that helps dealing with it a bit!- Truly I have a lot to be thankful for- doing my Bible studies help to keep my focus on Jesus- but I do feel empty inside- but when that feeling comes up- my Will is stronger and I stay happy for my family!- Blessings to All for a wonderful Holiday!- We All can only do the best that we can on this journey- our treasures are in Heaven so stay focused on why we are here- and yes it takes a whole lifetime to fiqure it all out!- Peace be with you!-

  2. Rose on December 14, 2017 at 3:08 pm

    Love you , Patsy! 🌹❤️

  3. Wendy E Fehlauer on December 14, 2017 at 3:11 pm

    Merry Christmas to Patsy and your whole family, and those that continue to encourage us on this journey of life, given by a loving God.

  4. Illa on December 14, 2017 at 3:22 pm

    Patsy, You always inspire with such loving words. The way you allow God to use the gifts He has given you brings joy to my heart. I wish you knew how many opportunities God has given me to witness to others through your postings, books, and videos. I love you and pray God blesses you abundantly each day of your life. Merry Christmas, dear one.

  5. Jan on December 15, 2017 at 1:20 am

    Very good advise. Thank you for your help. I believe that with God all things are possible.

  6. Susan Day on December 16, 2017 at 4:25 pm

    Wonderful Prayer. Will Cherish this.

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