We weren’t meant to figure this life out alone. Even though it’s tempting at times when folks have gotten on our last nerve and we don’t particularly want their “counsel.” Actually that’s when we probably need it most.
It helps to be particular about who we ask for input. For instance, I don’t ask my husband’s opinion when I’m choosing between which pair of shoes to buy, since he thinks black tennis shoes works for everything. Need a different color? Spray paint them is his motto. However if I need help understanding financial statements he’s my man. Likewise if I’m grieving I don’t go to someone who hasn’t suffered loss, or if I need gardening help my insurance man is probably not my go-to person.
So my advice…
Be selective, be discerning, because quite honestly, two heads are better than one.
Even though I feel like it so much of the time, I really am glad that we were not meant to figure out this life by ourselves… I get it all wrong so much of the time and need that “second head” to set me straight.
I had not seen your blog before! It’s awesome! I recently started a blog (godhealsbrokenhearts.com) and facebook group (God Heals Broken Hearts) in hopes that people could go there to reach out to other believers who might be going through similar struggles and trials. During really painful times in my life I have often felt very alone because it can be difficult to find other believers who understood what I was going through and too often I ended up reaching out to people who had the best of intentions, but simply weren’t the right people for that time. I love your advice in this post. We often hear that we should reach out to others when we are struggling, but I rarely hear anyone talking about the importance of being wise in who we reach out to.
Oh Patsy, I saw this picture and thought you were back in Africa again…and that you’d gone without me……again.
And it has to be someone you can trust, too. I’ve been burned many times by people who thought I should hear something that didn’t listen at all, but were fed by their own prejudices.
So very true. When my husband died, many people tried to comfort me, and succeeded on different levels. However, I was most comforted by the women who had already buried their husbands. They had an idea what I was going through. One in particular put her number in my cell phone and said, “call me. Whenever, call me.” Glad I found your blog. 🙂
I had that “go to ” person. A christian women who loves the Lord. She was my prayer partner. I lost my home to foreclosure d/t a long illness. I have many indoor kitties (garage is their play fantasy area”) They are all over 15, crippled or with medical problems. That was one of my ministries. I’m a Nurse Practitioner and have done this for over 16 years for shelters in Hawaii. I take what no one wants, pray over them, they have all thrived! God is good. The Vet and I are very close! We searched everywhere outside of city limits for a house in an area with no pet restrictions. Had to be out of the old house. After 11/2 months, my daughter found not only a rent to own house, christian pet friendly owner selling it. He knows I have kitties and that they would be indoor. The perfect amount of money up front that I could afford. My Christian Friend told me I was deliberately going against God’s Law if I take this house becase there is a pet restriction in the neighborhood HOA. She sent me scripture too. I told her I new a about the ordiance, but my kitties are never outside or violating anyones elses space. I feel that the law allows authorities to have teeth when someone is not responsible with their animals. That has never been the case with me. My Neighbors in the last 16 yrs never knew I had cats until I told them. I told my friend I respect her opinion and the scripture but I did not see this in the say way. My friend texted me back,said she loves, and has nerver spoken to me since. I’m feeling kike I mustbe perfect to have a Christian Friend. That wll never happen. Every day i break the law! I try, but I speed at times over the limit. She should have disowned me long before d/t breaking the law. She instead bought me a radar detector for Christmas! I have been very sad over the loss, She was my only Christian Friend I thought would always be there for me and me for her. How do I live with this and still trust others for friendship I feel beated over the head with the laws of scripture I never will be perfect enough for.